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Pillar 03 · Social

Someone other people can rely on.

Socially fit means mixing easily with anyone, showing the same respect regardless of what a person is worth, keeping real contact rather than the appearance of it — and being, for at least a few people, someone who can be counted on.

Self-test

Can you greet everyone first, whatever their status? Greeting first is a small forfeit of position. That is precisely why it is the test.

The practice

Just say hello.

It sounds too small to be a practice. It is the entire practice. Loneliness is rarely the absence of people — most of us are surrounded — it is the absence of any moment in the day when contact is initiated rather than transacted.

Greeting first, before you are greeted, regardless of whether the other person sits above or below you in some ordering, breaks a habit that runs deeper than politeness.

This week — greet each of these before they greet you

Nothing saved, nothing counted against you. This list is here to be used, not scored.

Where this pillar leans

Does your presence bring joy to other people?

An uncomfortable question, because the answer is not yours to give. The fourth pillar asks what all of this is finally for.

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